I have been mulling over this article all day.
I think one of the most important things we can give our kids is to raise them to be independent minded, creative, responsible, capable adults. There is a downside to this- and that is that they may not agree with you on things and they won't quite fit into society and may not accept identities that others may want to give them. I think the parts about the development of the teen self are very interesting. If a person has a good self- esteem and develops a healthy identity, then they will be able to accomplish whatever. If they develop an unhealthy one, then welcome to a rough life.